Ways to Have More Joy, Fun and Love in Your
Setting a Goal Works Better When You
Lighten Up with 14 Ways to Get More Fun, More Joy and More Love
in Your Life Every Day
1. Randomly wish people a good day whom you encounter as you go
about your work or errands. Really pay attention to people you
normally ignore, notice how they look and what they say. Start a
conversation with someone you normally donít talk to and try to
learn something interesting about that person.
2. Create a ritual for yourself that is nurturing and
supportive. For example, you could start the day by meditating
for 10 minutes, then prepare your favorite tea or other beverage
and read the paper or a book for a short period of time.
3. Go out to a local farm where they let you pick your own
produce (apples, peaches, berries, corn, green beans for
example). Enjoy the fun of experiencing the actual place where
you food was grown as well as the bargain price.
4. Have a good cry or a good laugh. One way to get a laugh
on demand is to read a Mad-Lib or tell a silly story to a friend
or your favorite child. Mad-Libs are available at large book
stores like Barnes and Noble.
5. Scribble for ten minutes with either crayons or colored
pens. When you scribble, donít try to make any kind of picture,
just make lines on the page in any color you like. An Australian
architect I met once used this technique every time he wanted to
work on an architectural drawing, especially when he was coming
up with a new design. He said it really improved his creativity
and relaxed him. It also helped to release his self-judgment.
6. Go out in nature early in the morning and notice how
things look with dew on them especially notice spider webs and
the remarkable design variations youíll find in them.
7. Go to a local duck pond in spring and feed the ducks.
You can also feed squirrels and birds at a park.
8. Do you do volunteer work on a regular basis? If not,
try doing it just once to see what it would be like. Be sure to
choose something you like to do and a cause you support. You may
find that it's habit forming. Some examples of volunteer work
are; read to children at the library; help feed the homeless;
help seniors at a senior center or pick up their groceries; work
with environmental groups or volunteer at your local animal
shelter. If you already are a volunteer, try doing a different
kind of work than youíve done in the past. You may be
overlooking an opportunity to try something youíd really like.
9. Take a walk around your neighborhood and think of ways
to improve it. Could you help a neighbor clean his or her yard?
Could you pick up litter in a local park or try to make some
changes through your local town council?
10. Put plants in your garden to attract butterflies and
birds. Make your yard into a habitat for wildlife.
11. Make your own greeting cards with plants, yarn,
stickers, etc. If youíre an artist, paint small pictures on
them. You can stamp designs on them or use pictures cut from
magazines. Send them to special friends.
12. Buy a coloring book and color the pictures like you
did when you were young.
13. Put up some seasonal decorations that arenít related
to a special holiday but relate to seasons like spring, summer,
fall or winter. For spring you could cut some branches with new
leaves on them. In fall dried flowers are nice or an arrangement
of fall fruit and nuts could be interesting.
14. Get involved in a group (or start one) where you can
be really honest about your feelings. Some groups that already
provide a safe place to share are the 12 Step groups such as AA,
Al-Anon, Coda etc. (check the Web for locations and times).
There are also therapy groups led by professionals that provide
a safe place to share and some churches have these as well.